Welcome to my Blog: All Things People-Pleasing & Therapy
Do you find yourself saying yes when you want to say no?
Are you running on empty, consistently putting others before your own needs and wellbeing?
Perhaps you’re sick of worrying you don’t fit in and want to stop feeling like you have to mask who you really are?
If any of these resonate, this blog is for you!
As I build this blog, through personal experiences and professional insights, I intend to post relatable and down-to-earth content about the ins and outs of people-pleasing, therapy, and personal growth.
Expect posts covering common causes and drivers of people-pleasing, the signs and consequences, practical tips to tackle unhelpful habits, how to prevent burn-out, common relationship and attachment difficulties and explore the nuances of navigating life as a recovering people-pleaser while normalising therapy along the way.
Whether you're seeking practical tips for setting boundaries, curious about the therapeutic process, or eager to break-free from people—pleasing to embrace and experience authenticity and self-discovery, I hope you find my posts helpful and empowering.
If you have a topic you want to learn more about feel free to contact me.
How Therapy for Low Self-Esteem Links to People-Pleasing
I provide therapy for anxiety and low self-esteem, while specialising in working with those who can relate to the term "people-pleaser." The reason for this is due to how interlinked they are. People-pleasing isn’t just about being agreeable or nice. For many, people-pleasing is rooted in low self-esteem and anxiety and is a coping mechanism for both.
Here are more reasons why low self-esteem is at the core of anxiety and people-pleasing:
How to Stop People-Pleasing at Work
Whilst it’s natural to want to be seen as a well-liked team player and build positive relationships, the habit of always putting others’ needs before your own and going the extra mile can lead to burnout, frustration, resentment, and a loss of authenticity. Here’s how to stop…
What to Expect When You Start Therapy
You might have always wondered what starting therapy is like or what to expect when you see a therapist for the first time. Here, I aim to alleviate some of the uncertainty by telling you a bit more about what you can expect from online therapy with me.
How Do You Know If You Are a People-Pleaser?
How do you know if you’re a people-pleaser?
Identifying if you are a people-pleaser involves reflecting on your thoughts, feelings and patterns of behaviour. Practice noticing how you tend to respond and feel in certain situations, and you will be able to recognise if you are consistently putting others' needs before your own and have become caught in an unhelpful people-pleasing trap. See if you can relate to these common signs:
The Pitfalls of People-Pleasing: Why it’s Time to Break Free
For most of my life, I carried an inflated sense of responsibility for others and found myself trapped in a cycle of people-pleasing. I wasn’t aware of it at the time, but it was as if my self-worth hinged on my ability to cater to everyone else’s needs and gain their approval. I was starting to feel resentful. I knew something had to change.
5 Common Myths about People-Pleasing: What You Need to Know
Let’s review some common thoughts people might have when it comes to people-pleasers..
MYTH 1) People-pleasing is being nice and kind.
Reality: Being nice and kind is lovely, and the world would be a much nicer place if more people valued those qualities. However, people-pleasing is not solely about being kind; it often stems from a deeper need for approval, acceptance, and fear of conflict, which can lead to unhealthy relationships, behaviors, and burnout. Doesn’t sound as nice now, does it?