If you’ve ever thought about therapy but stopped yourself from taking the step, you’re not alone.

So many people hold back, stuck in a loop of doubts, fears, and misconceptions. If you’ve ever wondered, "Is therapy really for me?" or "What if I’m not ‘bad enough’ for therapy?" or “What if the therapist thinks I’m weird?” this blog is for you.

Let’s explore some of the reasons people hesitate and how they might actually be keeping you from living the life you truly want.

If you’re feeling lost and feel like you don’t know who you are, here are 5 tips to discovering the real you and how therapy can help along the way.

If you’re asking yourself, ‘why can’t I stop people-pleasing?’ It’s because unfortunately, it's not easy! People-pleasing often stems from deeper issues which is why I encourage people-pleasers to engage in a therapy approach focused on addressing the root cause rather than teaching you ways to 'manage' how it feels. But, if accessing therapy isn’t possible, here are 6 ways to work towards stopping people-pleasing

It can be difficult to recognise when you might benefit from therapy, particularly if you’re someone who tends to prioritise others' needs over your own! This challenge is compounded by the common misconception things must be ‘bad enough’ before seeking support. In reality, therapy is most effective before a crisis hits, when you’re more capable of fully engaging in the process. Here are 10 signs that indicate therapy would be helpful.

You might have always wondered what starting therapy is like or what to expect when you see a therapist for the first time. Here, I aim to alleviate some of the uncertainty by telling you a bit more about what you can expect from online therapy with me.

How do you know if you’re a people-pleaser?

Identifying if you are a people-pleaser involves reflecting on your thoughts, feelings and patterns of behaviour. Practice noticing how you tend to respond and feel in certain situations, and you will be able to recognise if you are consistently putting others' needs before your own and have become caught in an unhelpful people-pleasing trap. See if you can relate to these common signs:

For most of my life, I carried an inflated sense of responsibility for others and found myself trapped in a cycle of people-pleasing. I wasn’t aware of it at the time, but it was as if my self-worth hinged on my ability to cater to everyone else’s needs and gain their approval. I was starting to feel resentful. I knew something had to change.