Welcome to my Blog: All Things People-Pleasing & Therapy
Do you find yourself saying yes when you want to say no?
Are you running on empty, consistently putting others before your own needs and wellbeing?
Perhaps you’re sick of worrying you don’t fit in and want to stop feeling like you have to mask who you really are?
If any of these resonate, this blog is for you!
As I build this blog, through personal experiences and professional insights, I intend to post relatable and down-to-earth content about the ins and outs of people-pleasing, therapy, and personal growth.
Expect posts covering common causes and drivers of people-pleasing, the signs and consequences, practical tips to tackle unhelpful habits, how to prevent burn-out, common relationship and attachment difficulties and explore the nuances of navigating life as a recovering people-pleaser while normalising therapy along the way.
Whether you're seeking practical tips for setting boundaries, curious about the therapeutic process, or eager to break-free from people—pleasing to embrace and experience authenticity and self-discovery, I hope you find my posts helpful and empowering.
If you have a topic you want to learn more about feel free to contact me.
How Do I Stop People-Pleasing?
If you’re asking yourself, ‘why can’t I stop people-pleasing?’ It’s because unfortunately, it's not easy! People-pleasing often stems from deeper issues which is why I encourage people-pleasers to engage in a therapy approach focused on addressing the root cause rather than teaching you ways to 'manage' how it feels. But, if accessing therapy isn’t possible, here are 6 ways to work towards stopping people-pleasing
How Do You Know If You Need Therapy?
It can be difficult to recognise when you might benefit from therapy, particularly if you’re someone who tends to prioritise others' needs over your own! This challenge is compounded by the common misconception things must be ‘bad enough’ before seeking support. In reality, therapy is most effective before a crisis hits, when you’re more capable of fully engaging in the process. Here are 10 signs that indicate therapy would be helpful.
What to Expect When You Start Therapy
You might have always wondered what starting therapy is like or what to expect when you see a therapist for the first time. Here, I aim to alleviate some of the uncertainty by telling you a bit more about what you can expect from online therapy with me.
How Do You Know If You Are a People-Pleaser?
How do you know if you’re a people-pleaser?
Identifying if you are a people-pleaser involves reflecting on your thoughts, feelings and patterns of behaviour. Practice noticing how you tend to respond and feel in certain situations, and you will be able to recognise if you are consistently putting others' needs before your own and have become caught in an unhelpful people-pleasing trap. See if you can relate to these common signs:
The Pitfalls of People-Pleasing: Why it’s Time to Break Free
For most of my life, I carried an inflated sense of responsibility for others and found myself trapped in a cycle of people-pleasing. I wasn’t aware of it at the time, but it was as if my self-worth hinged on my ability to cater to everyone else’s needs and gain their approval. I was starting to feel resentful. I knew something had to change.