CBT, EMDR & Schema Therapy
Learn how to stop People-Pleasing and embrace the real you.
What is People-Pleasing?
Are you mentally and physically drained from constantly doing everything for others - saying ‘yes’ when you want to say ‘no’ because you feel anxious or don’t want to let people down?
On the rare occasion you have ‘me time’ you feel selfish and can’t switch off because you feel like you should be doing something.
When it comes to confrontation do you feel like your head’s scrambled and your body feels like it’s going into battle?
Perhaps you often doubt whether you’re good enough or think ‘I don’t know who I am’. You might feel quite lost or stuck.
Do you overthink and wear a mask around others? Feeling self-conscious or being really good at shapeshifting your personality to try and ‘fit in’.
But deep down you struggle to feel like you belong.
These are all signs of people-pleasing.
If this resonates, please know things can be different! I’m proof of that and so are hundreds of people I’ve worked with over the years.
Having addressed my own people-pleasing difficulties, I’m passionate about using my 15 years+ experience to help you do the same.
Hi, I’m Charlotte, an experienced and highly qualified counsellor and BABCP Accredited CBT Therapist with training in Schema Therapy and EMDR.
I’m based in Stockport near Manchester, UK and provide remote online therapy & counselling specialising in teaching you how to stop people-pleasing so you can discover and be your true self, unapologetically.
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How To Stop People-Pleasing
Imagine this:
You wake up feeling free from all the responsibilities you’ve been trying to juggle, no longer feeling bogged down and overwhelmed.
You feel more clear and confident in who you are. Knowing you’re a good person who’s kind and likeable - you no longer have to mask the real you.
You finally feel ok about making time for yourself and are able to switch off and enjoy it without scrolling on your phone or thinking about everything that needs doing.
Setting healthy boundaries is no longer something you just read about. You’re able to assert yourself and address difficult conversations without feeling sick and shaky.
You’re feeling lighter and able to focus on the things that matter to you. No more feeling stuck or decision fatigue, you’re able to move forward with clarity about what you want from life.
You’re able to express how you’re feeling and your relationships feel more authentic.
You finally feel like you belong.
This doesn’t have to be something you just imagine, real long-term change is possible!
If you’re fed up of feeling stuck in the same patterns of behaviours and thoughts & you want to move forward, please don’t hesitate to book in for a free initial (no obligation) chat today and find out how I can help you.
Therapy for people-pleasing isn’t about teaching you to say ‘no’ to everyone, it’s about discovering how to feel ok about saying ‘yes’ to you.
To make space for what you want and need in life, without feeling like a bad person.
How To Stop Being A People-Pleaser
If you can relate to what you’ve read so far, please know you’re not alone!
I’ve been there and so have hundreds of people I’ve worked with.
It led to me feeling dissatisfied, run down and anxious.
I realised I was doing things based on what I thought other people wanted, with little awareness of what I actually liked and what I wanted from life. I started to feel resentful and stuck. I knew things had to change.
Working through my own difficulties, and practicing what I preach has changed my life.
Your life can change too!
By identifying and addressing the root cause of your people-pleasing habits,
whilst learning practical strategies and applying evidence-based techniques in your daily life
you can find the balance between doing things for others and doing things for yourself.
Real long-term change is possible.
People-Pleasing Therapy
Understand why you are a people-pleaser & learn how to stop people-pleasing.
I incorporate all of my 20 years studying Psychology, 15 years+ experience working in mental health, therapy training, research knowledge and qualifications to provide you with a therapy approach that really gets to the root cause of your difficulties and does something about it.
Through my approach you will learn that you can stop people-pleasing whilst still being a nice person.
My approach can help you stop being a people-pleaser by showing you :
Where your people-pleasing comes from
Why you feel stuck in cycles of people-pleasing
How to implement evidence-based techniques & strategies to help you stop people-pleasing and find balance and space for you.
Is People-Pleasing just my personality?
Being a people-pleaser might feel like it’s just who you are and who you’ll always be, but people-pleasing isn’t a fixed personality trait.
People-pleasing is a learned behaviour, which means change is possible.
You can learn a new way to be, whilst retaining the positive qualities that make you the kind and considerate person you are!
Some of the aims of my approach can be to:
Address the guilt and anxiety you might feel when you say ‘no’.
Learn how to set boundaries.
Understand what stops you saying ‘yes’ to you.
Free yourself from self-doubt and indecisiveness.
Discover the real you and what you want from life.
Feel liberated to be your authentic self.
Find a balance that truly works for you.
